We have been sharing our lives for almost a decade now, out of which being married for more than two years yet I believe courtship was tougher…
I always hear people finding it difficult after marriage. But to me it's contrary.
Courtship never had a social stamp at least in Indian society. It has always been either married or single till Orkut-FB came into our lives with statuses like "Committed", "In a relationship", etc etc!
In college I lost a friend to cancer. His death was a great grief to me. I was completely shattered by the thought of the trauma his parents and his ladylove were going through. But to my utter despair, I found lot of people heaving a sigh of relief at the same time while mourning my friend's death for the fact that at least he was not married. Although most of them knew that he had someone special in his life none bothered to acknowledge the loss of his lover. No one was ready to understand her suffering. Everyone was least interested to know that she loved him no less than a husband just because they were not married. And now, after so many years while we are on the way to settle down in our lives she is still fighting her own fight rejecting the marriage proposals coming to her. Absence of a social name of their relationship does not make her love shallow. Just because they couldn't get married doesn't make it easy for her to move on!
Relationship has always been like a plant to me which you need to to water regularly to make it grow to a beautiful tree. Post marriage lot of people are found intending to lend their helping hands to keep your relationship working. Even if you are on a simple healthy happy distance marriage don't be surprised to get calls from the most unexpected relatives explaining why it's not right to stay apart after marriage. But during courtship, hardly people care to know the difficulties involved in a long distance relationship. Rather, they would be happy to know if both of you are not in the same city as according to them being away from each other helps in dedicating yourself to the career instead of going around with your partner and of course there are less chances of sleeping together when you are miles apart as our so-called well-wishers are more concerned with that!
Surprisingly, still in 2013 in most parts of our country an unmarried couple cause many eyebrows to raise while they are accepted cordially by the same society after marriage. It's like even if a married couple unfortunately decides to go for a divorce will step back thinking about the formalities that they will have to go through and more importantly the number of calls and gyans they will have to take from the "n" number of people as if the entire world wants them to be together. But pre marriage neither society nor anyone else will be interested, it will be only you and only two of you standing for your relationship!
So to all those marriage phobic couple, it’s much easier dear. You have already traversed the tougher part.
Just continue on the same journey with much easier path to follow!
I always hear people finding it difficult after marriage. But to me it's contrary.
Courtship never had a social stamp at least in Indian society. It has always been either married or single till Orkut-FB came into our lives with statuses like "Committed", "In a relationship", etc etc!
In college I lost a friend to cancer. His death was a great grief to me. I was completely shattered by the thought of the trauma his parents and his ladylove were going through. But to my utter despair, I found lot of people heaving a sigh of relief at the same time while mourning my friend's death for the fact that at least he was not married. Although most of them knew that he had someone special in his life none bothered to acknowledge the loss of his lover. No one was ready to understand her suffering. Everyone was least interested to know that she loved him no less than a husband just because they were not married. And now, after so many years while we are on the way to settle down in our lives she is still fighting her own fight rejecting the marriage proposals coming to her. Absence of a social name of their relationship does not make her love shallow. Just because they couldn't get married doesn't make it easy for her to move on!
Relationship has always been like a plant to me which you need to to water regularly to make it grow to a beautiful tree. Post marriage lot of people are found intending to lend their helping hands to keep your relationship working. Even if you are on a simple healthy happy distance marriage don't be surprised to get calls from the most unexpected relatives explaining why it's not right to stay apart after marriage. But during courtship, hardly people care to know the difficulties involved in a long distance relationship. Rather, they would be happy to know if both of you are not in the same city as according to them being away from each other helps in dedicating yourself to the career instead of going around with your partner and of course there are less chances of sleeping together when you are miles apart as our so-called well-wishers are more concerned with that!
Surprisingly, still in 2013 in most parts of our country an unmarried couple cause many eyebrows to raise while they are accepted cordially by the same society after marriage. It's like even if a married couple unfortunately decides to go for a divorce will step back thinking about the formalities that they will have to go through and more importantly the number of calls and gyans they will have to take from the "n" number of people as if the entire world wants them to be together. But pre marriage neither society nor anyone else will be interested, it will be only you and only two of you standing for your relationship!
So to all those marriage phobic couple, it’s much easier dear. You have already traversed the tougher part.
Just continue on the same journey with much easier path to follow!
